[Advaita-l] Advaita-l Digest, Vol 51, Issue 12

viswanathan n vishy39 at hotmail.com
Wed Jul 25 02:50:52 CDT 2007

Dear Bhaskar Prabhu
Hare Krishna

Your question about vairagya ,esp, in real  life situations,  is very 
practical and relevent to every householder like us.

Here is where the concept of living in "present"  comes..... "Right Now 
Right Here"  should be the approch to the life.

Scene one....condole the death and console the near ones when you are there 
in that scene....  be there totally,without even thinking of those at 
home....  be there bit more time if need be, but the movement you are out of 
that place ..come out completely

than the scene changes..you are at home. If still time is there, take your 
people for a movie. Let them enjoy. (assuming they dont even know the dead, 
as you said)

According to me I was neither touched nor involved in neither of the places. 
Nevertheless  I do perfrom just the 'act' of consoling or enjoying. I remain 
unaffected . (the scene you mentioned , once practically came across in my 

Is it this called vairagya???? Whatever..... I remain unattahced to the 
surroundings, but I do respond
to the scene as I am expected to.



>Hare Krishna
>Thanks a lot for all the replies from the revered prabhuji-s.  I am ever
>indebted to these thoughtful insights.  But, my question was with more
>specific intention & towards practical implimentation of virtue of vairAgya
>in our day to day life.  Yes, theoretically we know the definition of
>vairAgya & even we can quote scriptural references for the same & we can
>talk/write authoritatively about it .  But when it comes to our *real life
>situations* what would be the right attitude rather mental state of ours
>being a real vairAgi. That is what exactly I wanted to know.  Let me
>explain it by taking one practical example.  One morning, say, I've assured
>my wife & kids to take them to a movie in the evening after coming back
>from office.   But, while on the way to office,  I heard a sad news that my
>closest childhood friend died in a road accident & his body is lying in
>mortuary at hospital...Immediately I rushed to the hospital, deeply mourned
>the death of my fast friend, have attended his cremation, consoled his wife
>& kids & my other friends etc. etc. & will come back to home.  Now, tell
>me,  should I carry that sad feeling to my house & by narrating the whole
>episode to my wife (who does not even know the name of my departed friend)
>&  making her  also to grieve along with me & ruin the whole happy
>atmosphere at home??  or should I leave all my sorrows as soon as I comeout
>from the crematorium & enjoy the evening movie with my wife & kids with ice
>creams & pop corns ??  What would be the attitude/mental state  of a real
>vairAgi in these *real life* situations??  Whether he will just *act * (or
>pretend) according to the demands of life *situation/circumstance*??  like,
>looking sad & weepy guy at the cremation of his friend  & looking joyful,
>wonderfully happy  husband when he is with family !!  Or,  should he wear
>an apathetic,  granite face with *no* feeling at all in both these
>situations?? which is the right & appropriate mental state here for a real
>vairAgi ??  whether he should be like ' duHkEshu anudvigna manaH, sukEshu
>vigata spruhaH', 'na prahrushyEt priyaM prApya nOdvijEt prApyachApriyaM',
>'sukha dhukhE samEkrutvA' etc. etc.  or dhHkEshu *duHkhi*, suKhEshu *suKhi*
>without wearing any permanent tag or dis-associating himself with neither
>of these vikAra-s!!!  Kindly tell me, which is the *choice* of a real
>Hari Hari Hari Bol!!!


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