[Advaita-l] Brahmin bridegrooms not getting brides *

sriram srirudra at vsnl.com
Fri Jun 29 06:02:38 CDT 2012

The reluctance of father/mother /both to marry off their daughter to a 
vaidhika brahmana also contributes to this state of  affairs.Here the 
parents think that the status of a vaidhika brahmana is lower in society not 
due to absence of wealth but it is perceived to be lower for declaring in 
society that their son -in-law is a vaidhika brahmana.Iam no exception.
So also a businessman as a son -in-law is only a second or third 
choice.Parents want their daughters to be well above wants and also society 
accepted status levels.May be there is no logical reason but it is 
there.Like preference for a fair skinned girl to a swarthy.These are all 
unexplained but these prejudices do exist.Only education by our Upanyasa 
Karthas -like our Velukudi Krishnan Swamigal -will remove this type of 
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "vijayalakshmi ravindran" <mamam4 at gmail.com>
To: "Sunil Bhattacharjya" <sunil_bhattacharjya at yahoo.com>; "A discussion 
group for Advaita Vedanta" <advaita-l at lists.advaita-vedanta.org>
Sent: Thursday, June 28, 2012 9:21 AM
Subject: Re: [Advaita-l] Brahmin bridegrooms not getting brides *

> Dear Friends ,
> This problem is there in all subjects of Brahmins,Infact Madhwa Swamijis
> are openly reaching out the public ,appealing for the girls to get married
> to Pandits . Such a sorry state of affairs
> As I see the thread is commented by men,its one pointed view.Why women are
> not interested in getting into Vedic dharma or Vaidika dharma?
> Have you are really pondered on this issue .? Seriously NO.
> See all the Mutts , they have gurukulams all over the country only for 
> boys
> !!!!Do you find any for girls? I haven't seen any.Esteemed members
> please enlighten me if you have seen any .Only one in Pune where they 
> teach
> women to do Satyanarayan puja ,Marriage and other functions I have read
> about this in The Hindu long ago .why not have such institutions all over
> the country?
> Yes I understand girls have issues of reaching puberty and become mature
> and so the Vedic Dharma says women have to be at home.
> Home is where they have to learn. But think and ponder from the age of 5 
> to
> 10 can't they be too trained in Vedic dharmic way of life .
> Most of the homes do not follow the same pattern of dharmas laid down by
> the Shastras too,each household has a different set of rules of rajaswala 
> ,
> and other practices . Just like men have a single Sandhyavanadana 
> procedure
> according to his Mutt or guru parampara, why not have
> a single set of rules to the women folk too , teach the girls young at
> least in the summer camps to be arranged by the various mutt branches and
> see the difference at least the coming generations will not have to face
> this problems.
> And the issue of giving importance to the male child, this has taken such 
> a
> worse turn that we see the ratios of male : female going so down.Who is 
> the
> cause behind this ? PONDER please .I want a male child to continue my
> family should stop .Only then there will be more girls in the brahmin
> community .
> Make a course of study  for them too ,just like Pandits ,so that at least
> they do will learn the traditional way the brahminic culture .
> Also ,each subsect , or followers of each guru want girls in their own sub
> sect language and so on , this also is limiting the choice of the brahmins
> to intermarry within the sects, e.g.:This inter marriages between smarthas
> and madhwas, vice versa , was going on till recently,now they differences
> are so pronounced that they are not willing to take or give girls to other
> brahmin sects
> Any in most of the cases its the father of the girl who is not interested
> in getting his daughter married to the Vedic Brahmana too.
> Just blaming the women folk saying they are becoming modern than men is
> wrong too.Infact in many homes as wornen we see traditions are kept alive
> by the women folk .Even after going to work raising their children,taking
> care of their elders and men : many a women are still do their household
> pujas like Varalakshmi vratam and Krishna jay anti etc with so much bhakti
> and devotion .
> I am a lay person in the matters of Dharma and Shastra , but a women,s
> point of view is also needed here .
> Namaskaarams
> Mrs Vijayalakshmi Ravindran
> On Thu, Jun 28, 2012 at 3:04 AM, Sunil Bhattacharjya <
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>> Dear friends,
>> Is this a genuine mail from Shri Rajaram or s his id hacked?
>> Assuming this to be genuine mail I would advise the Brahmin boys to learn
>> Tai Chi rather than Karate. People generally think of Tai Chi more as a
>> delicate dance-form with some health benefits. Nothing can be further 
>> from
>> the truth.  Originally Tai Chi can be said to be from Kanchipuram as 
>> Bodhi
>> dharma introduced it as a fitness regime in Shaolin and later on a 
>> Shaolin
>> master converted it to a training system, where students can be trained 
>> in
>> this deadly self-defence system , which uses the power of the opponent
>> against the opponent, while conserving one's own power and yet there is 
>> no
>> sign of any combat-training..  Tai Chi thus conforms to the Brahmanical
>> attitude of non-aggression yet providing a deadly defence so that the
>> opponent however powerful would have to eat a humble pie, should he or 
>> she
>> dare to attack ones knowing tai Chi. The advanced Tai Chi students, who 
>> are
>> older (say 55+ years), only were taught about the 107 +1 vital points in
>> the body
>>  and the use of the required Tai Chi movements to reach those points of
>> the attacker, should one be attacked. These 108 Vital points were taught 
>> by
>> Agastya and are also mentioned in the ancient Ayurveda texts. Basically 
>> Tai
>> Chi is a non-aggressive style and has tremendous health benefits. Further
>> being a peaceful method it can be practised anywhere. Once a competition
>> was arranged between two Tai Chi masters and the fight never began as 
>> none
>> of them would strike first. Such is the peaceful stance of Tai-Chi. I
>> really enjoy Tai Chi even as a senior citizen.
>> This is not in anyway to denigrate the Karata, King-fu and other martial
>> arts.
>> Regards,
>> Sunil KB
>> ________________________________
>> From: Rajaram Venkataramani <rajaramvenk at gmail.com>
>> To: A discussion group for Advaita Vedanta <
>> advaita-l at lists.advaita-vedanta.org>
>> Cc: Sunil Bhattacharjya <sunil_bhattacharjya at yahoo.com>
>> Sent: Wednesday, June 27, 2012 1:17 PM
>> Subject: Re: [Advaita-l] Brahmin bridegrooms not getting brides
>> The solution is exceedingly simple. Brahmin boys should be intelligent in
>> managing finances whether they do vaidhika or secular profession. They
>> should work out right from school or gurukula days. My karate master
>> Shihaan Husseini used to say,"My students should be fit and masters in
>> karate like the priest in ashtalaksmi temple". I strongly recommend the
>> following for all normal healthy individuals of any age who have doctor's
>> permission to exercise.
>> 1. https://www.supreme90dayworkout.com/
>> 2. http://www.thehourofpower.co.uk/
>> The boys should know Kama Shastra before getting married. They should
>> abide by dharma like Rama. The daughter-in-law should be treated with
>> affection by the patents-in-law. The girls should in their heart of 
>> hearts
>> accept their in-laws like their own parents.
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