[Advaita-l] What do we Love?

[D.V.N.Sarma డి.వి.ఎన్.శర్మ]

Even in Bh.U

न वा अरे पत्युः कामाय पतिः प्रियो भवत्यानस्तु कामाय पतिः प्रियो भवति
न वा अरे जायायै कामाय जाया प्रिया भवत्यात्मनस्तु कामाय जाया प्रिया भवति
.....
इत्येवम्

regards,
Sarma.


On Tue, Aug 6, 2013 at 8:54 PM, kuntimaddi sadananda <
kuntimaddisada at yahoo.com> wrote:

> What do we Love?
> People talk about love and we should love others, etc. Bri. Up. in
> Maitreyii brahmana, Yagnavalkya discusses this aspect exhaustively as he
> teaches his own wife Maitreyii.
> In essence – what we love is an object of happiness. We love a person or
> an object only because with that person or object I am happy and without
> that person or object I am not happy. Hence, the Upanishad says if you
> examine critically, what you love is a happy state of mind that is gained
> in the presence of that person or object. If the same person or object
> later causes unhappiness, then either one tolerates that object or tries to
> get rid of that object. As our likes and dislikes change with time,
> location, etc, the objects of love-hate also change. That is why we have
> many love-marriages and many more divorces too. It may start with I love
> you to I allow you.  In addition the person I love also changes with time,
> while my likes and dislikes change with time.
> Hence what I love is not object or person per sec, but the happy state of
> mind that the person or object brings. Factually, the object is just an
> object. Happiness is not a property of any object or person – if so the
> same object should bring happiness for anybody. Hence, the happiness that I
> get when I am with the person I love or I like is the happiness from my own
> self – since in those moments I am with the person I love or object I like
> I am contended – and there is no longing mind or desiring mind at that
> time. I am at peace with myself, even though I falsely attribute that
> happiness to the association with the object or person. When the mind is no
> more longing and desiring, I am full in those moments, since there no
> feeling of inadequacy in those moments – in those moments I am happy.
> Stronger the desire for an object or a person, greater and intense will be
> my state of happiness since my state of happiness or fullness is now as
> though
>  reflected by being association of the object or person I love.
> I will be happy with myself if I am full all the time – that is there is
> no more longing mind or desiring mind or mind what feels inadequate.
> Fullness or limitless is called Brahman, which etymologically means
> infinite. When I recognize that I am Brahman, then there is no more longing
> mind or desiring mind since limitless alone is happiness. The recognition
> that I am Brahman is what is called self-realization.
> Brahman being infinite, it cannot exclude anything, since by exclusion of
> anything or anybody it is no-more Brahman. Hence realization that I am full
> or happiness or Brahman, involves recognizing that the self in me is the
> self in all. Since I love myself – the love myself automatically flows the
> whole creation, since creation cannot be different from the self that I am.
> Hence love is not separate from abidance in the self that pervades every
> perceptible object or person. Hence happiness or limitless is the same as
> Love absolute. That recognition that I am is self-realization too. Love for
> myself is supreme and unconditional while all other love is as long as they
> bring happiness I love. However when I recognize this, I become one with
> the whole universe; then the love for the self pervades the whole universe
> since it is not different myself. There are no divisions or any divisions
> are only apparent and not real.
> Hari Om!
> Sadananda
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