[Advaita-l] What do we Love?

D.V.N.Sarma డి.వి.ఎన్.శర్మ dvnsarma at gmail.com
Tue Aug 6 11:18:03 CDT 2013

Sorry. We were refering to the same thing.  The forth brahmana of Bh.U is
Known as Maitreyi Brahmana.


On Tue, Aug 6, 2013 at 9:37 PM, D.V.N.Sarma డి.వి.ఎన్.శర్మ <
dvnsarma at gmail.com> wrote:

> Even in Bh.U
> न वा अरे पत्युः कामाय पतिः प्रियो भवत्यानस्तु कामाय पतिः प्रियो भवति
> न वा अरे जायायै कामाय जाया प्रिया भवत्यात्मनस्तु कामाय जाया प्रिया भवति
> .....
> इत्येवम्
> regards,
> Sarma.
> On Tue, Aug 6, 2013 at 8:54 PM, kuntimaddi sadananda <
> kuntimaddisada at yahoo.com> wrote:
>> What do we Love?
>> People talk about love and we should love others, etc. Bri. Up. in
>> Maitreyii brahmana, Yagnavalkya discusses this aspect exhaustively as he
>> teaches his own wife Maitreyii.
>> In essence – what we love is an object of happiness. We love a person or
>> an object only because with that person or object I am happy and without
>> that person or object I am not happy. Hence, the Upanishad says if you
>> examine critically, what you love is a happy state of mind that is gained
>> in the presence of that person or object. If the same person or object
>> later causes unhappiness, then either one tolerates that object or tries to
>> get rid of that object. As our likes and dislikes change with time,
>> location, etc, the objects of love-hate also change. That is why we have
>> many love-marriages and many more divorces too. It may start with I love
>> you to I allow you.  In addition the person I love also changes with time,
>> while my likes and dislikes change with time.
>> Hence what I love is not object or person per sec, but the happy state of
>> mind that the person or object brings. Factually, the object is just an
>> object. Happiness is not a property of any object or person – if so the
>> same object should bring happiness for anybody. Hence, the happiness that I
>> get when I am with the person I love or I like is the happiness from my own
>> self – since in those moments I am with the person I love or object I like
>> I am contended – and there is no longing mind or desiring mind at that
>> time. I am at peace with myself, even though I falsely attribute that
>> happiness to the association with the object or person. When the mind is no
>> more longing and desiring, I am full in those moments, since there no
>> feeling of inadequacy in those moments – in those moments I am happy.
>> Stronger the desire for an object or a person, greater and intense will be
>> my state of happiness since my state of happiness or fullness is now as
>> though
>>  reflected by being association of the object or person I love.
>> I will be happy with myself if I am full all the time – that is there is
>> no more longing mind or desiring mind or mind what feels inadequate.
>> Fullness or limitless is called Brahman, which etymologically means
>> infinite. When I recognize that I am Brahman, then there is no more longing
>> mind or desiring mind since limitless alone is happiness. The recognition
>> that I am Brahman is what is called self-realization.
>> Brahman being infinite, it cannot exclude anything, since by exclusion of
>> anything or anybody it is no-more Brahman. Hence realization that I am full
>> or happiness or Brahman, involves recognizing that the self in me is the
>> self in all. Since I love myself – the love myself automatically flows the
>> whole creation, since creation cannot be different from the self that I am.
>> Hence love is not separate from abidance in the self that pervades every
>> perceptible object or person. Hence happiness or limitless is the same as
>> Love absolute. That recognition that I am is self-realization too. Love for
>> myself is supreme and unconditional while all other love is as long as they
>> bring happiness I love. However when I recognize this, I become one with
>> the whole universe; then the love for the self pervades the whole universe
>> since it is not different myself. There are no divisions or any divisions
>> are only apparent and not real.
>> Hari Om!
>> Sadananda
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